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Grammar: Writing Polite Requests Level 6

Introduction

Imagine you need help with your homework or want to borrow a book from a friend. How do you ask without sounding rude? Learning to write polite requests is an essential skill that helps us communicate effectively and respectfully. In this article, we will explore how to craft polite requests in formal writing, making your communication clearer and more courteous.

Definition and Concept

A polite request is a way of asking for something while showing respect and consideration for the other person’s feelings. This involves using courteous language, appropriate tone, and sometimes specific phrases that soften the request.

Relevance:

  • Everyday Communication: Helps in personal interactions, emails, and formal letters.
  • Professional Settings: Enhances your ability to communicate effectively in the workplace.

Historical Context or Origin​

The concept of politeness in language can be traced back to ancient civilizations where respect and social hierarchy influenced communication styles. Over time, different cultures developed unique ways of expressing requests, often using indirect speech to soften the impact of the ask. This evolution reflects the importance of maintaining harmony in social interactions.

Understanding the Problem

When making a polite request, it is crucial to consider the context and the relationship with the person you are addressing. Here are some key elements to include:

  • Use of ‘please’ to soften the request.
  • Using the conditional form (e.g., ‘Could you…?’ instead of ‘Can you…?’).
  • Expressing gratitude in advance (e.g., ‘Thank you for considering my request.’)

Methods to Solve the Problem with different types of problems​

Method 1: Direct Approach

  • Start with a polite greeting.
  • State your request clearly and use ‘please’.
  • End with a thank you.

    • Example:
    “Dear Mr. Smith, could you please help me with my science project? Thank you!”

    Method 2: Indirect Approach

  • Begin with a statement or question that relates to your request.
  • Then make your request more gently.

    • Example:
    “I hope you’re having a great day! I was wondering if you could lend me your notes for the math class? I would really appreciate it!”

    Exceptions and Special Cases​

  • Context Matters: In some situations, a direct request may be more appropriate, especially in urgent matters.
  • Familiarity: The level of politeness may vary based on your relationship with the person you are addressing.

    • Step-by-Step Practice​

    Practice Problem 1: Write a polite request to borrow a book from a classmate.

    Solution:

  • Start with a friendly greeting.
  • Clearly state your request using ‘please’.
  • Thank them in advance.

    • Example: “Hi Sarah, I hope you’re well! Would you mind if I borrowed your history book for a few days? Thank you so much!”

    Practice Problem 2: Write a polite email to a teacher asking for an extension on an assignment.

    Solution:

  • Begin with a respectful salutation.
  • Explain your situation briefly.
  • Make your request and express gratitude.

    • Example: “Dear Ms. Johnson, I hope you are doing well. I am writing to request an extension on the upcoming assignment due to unforeseen circumstances. I appreciate your understanding and support. Thank you!”

    Examples and Variations

    Example 1:

    • Request: “Can I have a piece of cake?”
    • Polite Version: “Could I please have a piece of cake? Thank you!”

    Example 2:

    • Request: “Give me the report by Friday.”
    • Polite Version: “Would you be able to send me the report by Friday, please? I would greatly appreciate it!”

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    Common Mistakes and Pitfalls

    • Using commanding language instead of polite requests.
    • Forgetting to say ‘please’ or ‘thank you’.
    • Being too vague in the request.

    Tips and Tricks for Efficiency

    • Always consider your relationship with the person when crafting your request.
    • Use polite phrases frequently to build a habit.
    • Practice writing requests in different contexts to improve your skills.

    Real life application

    • In school: Asking teachers for help or extensions on assignments.
    • In the workplace: Requesting time off or assistance from colleagues.
    • In daily life: Asking friends or family for favors or help.

    FAQ's

    It’s always best to include ‘please’ in your requests. If you forget, simply add it in your follow-up communication.
    While politeness is important, being overly formal can sometimes make your request feel insincere. Find a balance that feels natural.
    Yes, but ensure you are respectful and considerate in your approach, especially if it is someone you do not know well.
    If someone declines your request, respond graciously by thanking them for considering it, regardless of the outcome.
    Being polite fosters positive relationships and shows respect for others, making them more likely to respond favorably to your requests.

    Conclusion

    Writing polite requests is a crucial skill that enhances communication in both personal and professional settings. By practicing the techniques outlined in this article, you can ensure that your requests are received positively, paving the way for better interactions and relationships.

    References and Further Exploration

    • Books: “The Art of Communicating” by Thich Nhat Hanh.
    • Online Resources: Purdue OWL for writing tips and etiquette.

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